Comments on: Dreaming the Life http://www.braggtown.com/blog/brandi/dreaming-the-life/ The personal blog of Jim Tuttle, digital librarian and all around good guy Tue, 06 Jan 2009 06:46:11 +0000 hourly 1 By: dkp http://www.braggtown.com/blog/brandi/dreaming-the-life/comment-page-1/#comment-422 dkp Fri, 02 Nov 2007 19:32:19 +0000 http://www.braggtown.com/blog/brandi/dreaming-the-life/#comment-422 Dear Jim: I'm so very sorry for your loss. I hope you don't try to hurry your grief. It can take a long time, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. But since you've asked yourself for lessons, please consider a lesson that I keep needing to re-learn, with respect to my dad and his own fucked-up-edness: I don't have to be him. I can become a better dad, a better husband, and a happier person than he was. You can do that too. You're not alone, as Brandi noted. There are lots of folks pulling for you. Feel free to reach out as often, or as little as you like. Best, dkp Dear Jim: I’m so very sorry for your loss. I hope you don’t try to hurry your grief. It can take a long time, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But since you’ve asked yourself for lessons, please consider a lesson that I keep needing to re-learn, with respect to my dad and his own fucked-up-edness: I don’t have to be him. I can become a better dad, a better husband, and a happier person than he was. You can do that too.

You’re not alone, as Brandi noted. There are lots of folks pulling for you. Feel free to reach out as often, or as little as you like.

Best,

dkp

]]> By: Brandi http://www.braggtown.com/blog/brandi/dreaming-the-life/comment-page-1/#comment-420 Brandi Thu, 01 Nov 2007 12:29:19 +0000 http://www.braggtown.com/blog/brandi/dreaming-the-life/#comment-420 Oh sweetie. I wish I could do more! I wish I wasn't such a heavy sleeper or just that I would inherently know to comfort you in the middle of the night! It may not feel like it, but I'm here for you love. I do think it is very important to consider your feelings and think about what you want to take away from both his life and death. I think we (Americans or maybe most humans?) have a tendency to either bottle things up or just not spend enough time thinking about things before we shove it to the side to jump into the rest of our high-paced life. Humans are known for little above their brain power. We may not be as skilled a hunter or able to swing from trees, but we have our brain prowess. That's what got us into a lot of messes and it's all we have to get us out of our messes. So don't feel silly wondering what it all means. Oh sweetie. I wish I could do more! I wish I wasn’t such a heavy sleeper or just that I would inherently know to comfort you in the middle of the night!

It may not feel like it, but I’m here for you love. I do think it is very important to consider your feelings and think about what you want to take away from both his life and death. I think we (Americans or maybe most humans?) have a tendency to either bottle things up or just not spend enough time thinking about things before we shove it to the side to jump into the rest of our high-paced life. Humans are known for little above their brain power. We may not be as skilled a hunter or able to swing from trees, but we have our brain prowess. That’s what got us into a lot of messes and it’s all we have to get us out of our messes. So don’t feel silly wondering what it all means.

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